Is honesty the best policy?

When you ask your friend have I put on weight? If you are asking you know you have but when they say yes it feels like being punched in the face.

If you ask your partner do you think she's fit? And he says yes you want to slap him and he can't understand why you aren't talking to him for the next couple of hours.


We may ask the questions but do we really want to know the answers? It does beg the question if people are honest by nature? It is fair easier to lie sometimes then it is to tell the truth. A friend asks of her new boyfriend do you think he's good looking? In your head you are screaming NOOO! but the words that come out of your mouth are along the lines of 'he is attractive not my type though.'

When I say lies I mean the little white lies that get you through not the big fat black ones that end of hurting the people you love. Your sister asks if you think her hair makes he look like a drag queen, you say no but inside you are thinking a little.


If you are not sure if you want to be with your partner anymore and you ask your friend for their opinion, you don't want them to go on a hour rant about how they hate him and how they hate men in general. You want the PC version which weights up both views of the argument.


Is honesty the best policy? If your friend looks like a state before they go out it is your duty to tell her because you know when other girls see you looking fab and her looking a state, they think you are a bitch for letting her go out like that.

I do think there is a fine line between being brutally honest and telling the truth. One I suppose means someone will be upset whereas the other means you craft it in a way that means  you tell them not necessarily what you want to hear but a version of it. I think boys have got it right, they are honest but in a way that means they don't cause offense whereas girls seems to swing between bitch or not upfront.

I think personally, get the balance, little white lies when you need to, brutal honesty when they need it. But be kind people!