Knowing when to cut the friendship bracelets

This is something that, with having sisters, comes up a bit and is something I do find myself thinking about quite a lot as I get older.

When do you cut the friendship bracelets?

I don't mean literally as if you have any you have had since you were 11 and you are now 25 you probably should have done so a long time ago. They probably aren't very nice by now.

You see I mean figuratively. At different points in your life you make friends and then through no choice of your own over the years you may slowly lose contact with Facebook updates being your only method of knowing what they are up. For example I have friends from senior, infant and college that I don't see anymore, we just fell out of the same circles and although I can see them out and happily talk away I would never go out of my way to arrange something.

But then what do you do about the friends that you just don't see anymore?

I suppose the hardest decisions to make is for those friends who you still see but you have nothing in common with, or with those who never make the effort.

You know you should stay friends as you have years of memories and sometimes letting go is the hardest part but when you have nothing in common, how easy is it?

There are some people who I was really good friends with at University but when we left we realised the only thing we had in common was the fact we were on the course, so unfortunately we lost touch.

It is just hard, you don't want to lose friends but sometimes it just becomes too hard and too much hassle trying to stay friends. I have some I have known for years who a simple text sent a meet-up is arranged and when I see them it feels like yesterday but others it can be difficult just getting a reply.

I did lose a friend through different circumstances, but it does make me wonder if we were still talking I still don't think we would be friends we had nothing in common.

At the end of the day I suppose it is just sad, you like to think that you will be friends with your old friends forever, but sometimes it just doesn't work out. You would end a  relationships with a boyfriend if it wasn't working out, so why don't women do the same with their friends?

Is honesty the best policy?

When you ask your friend have I put on weight? If you are asking you know you have but when they say yes it feels like being punched in the face.

If you ask your partner do you think she's fit? And he says yes you want to slap him and he can't understand why you aren't talking to him for the next couple of hours.


We may ask the questions but do we really want to know the answers? It does beg the question if people are honest by nature? It is fair easier to lie sometimes then it is to tell the truth. A friend asks of her new boyfriend do you think he's good looking? In your head you are screaming NOOO! but the words that come out of your mouth are along the lines of 'he is attractive not my type though.'

When I say lies I mean the little white lies that get you through not the big fat black ones that end of hurting the people you love. Your sister asks if you think her hair makes he look like a drag queen, you say no but inside you are thinking a little.


If you are not sure if you want to be with your partner anymore and you ask your friend for their opinion, you don't want them to go on a hour rant about how they hate him and how they hate men in general. You want the PC version which weights up both views of the argument.


Is honesty the best policy? If your friend looks like a state before they go out it is your duty to tell her because you know when other girls see you looking fab and her looking a state, they think you are a bitch for letting her go out like that.

I do think there is a fine line between being brutally honest and telling the truth. One I suppose means someone will be upset whereas the other means you craft it in a way that means  you tell them not necessarily what you want to hear but a version of it. I think boys have got it right, they are honest but in a way that means they don't cause offense whereas girls seems to swing between bitch or not upfront.

I think personally, get the balance, little white lies when you need to, brutal honesty when they need it. But be kind people!